Abbey

Monochrome Madness: Week 36

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Portrait of Abbey

The dog can only become what’s in your bubble. The dog is imitating the energy that is in your bubble. You are the source, the feast of energy. If you feel anxious, the dog becomes anxious with you. If you become nervous, the dog wakes up nervous with you.
Cesar Millan

… and I would add that if you are calm your dog is calm with you.

This is my darling Abbey. In this particular moment my mirror of serenity in the back garden.

So beautiful.

Thanks for stopping by …

Dorothy

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©Dorothy Chiotti … Aimwell CreativeWorks 2014

Bear’s Healing Journey

Chillin'

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Monochrome Madness Week 32

This image of my equine companion, Bear, was captured about three weeks ago when he was feeling rather under the weather with a lameness issue.

Like me he’s been experiencing a transitional year.

New barn; new coach; new training regimen and work ethic; new friends have been positive stressors requiring adjustment and alignment on both our parts.

Releasing old behaviour patterns that no longer suit and embracing a new, more authentic way of being in the world requires big change at all levels and can be an exhausting process. If we aren’t paying attention and listening to our bodies, serious damage can ensue.

Adrenal fatigue has been my teacher here.

I’m pleased to say that now, after much considered care by his amazing vet, chiropractor, the barn owner, the farrier and with heaping doses of extra love from me and now two paddock buddies to pass the time with outside, Bear is feeling much better. In fact, it seems to me he’s moving more freely than I’ve ever experienced. Indeed, his frame of mind in his work appears to reflect this ~ probably because he is feeling more comfortable.

Like people, horses can get caught up in a negative way of being. It’s what they get used to so it becomes “normal.”

But then one day the ball drops.

The wake up call Bear gave me when he first appeared lame told me he was ready for change; told me he needed to rest before stepping even further into the new, more life-embracing way of being I’d chosen for us both earlier this year.

I’m glad I listened and had the support around me to move him gently into his next stage of development.

Today he gets a massage to complete this cycle of care.

Lucky horse. 😉

Thanks for visiting …

Dorothy

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I notice we’ve passed the 1,000 marker for followers. Thank you so much to one and all for showing such interest in my photography. I plan a retrospective of my favourite images for a future blog post when things settle down a bit around here. Stay tuned!

©Dorothy Chiotti … Aimwell CreativeWorks 2014

Flying Change

Weekly Photo Challenge: Split-Second Story

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Dallard and Hershey

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As we all know the trajectory of a life can change in a split second. You might call it a flying change.

Yesterday I was watching my new friend Dallard and his horse, Hershey, have a lesson with our coach, Stefan.

In this precise moment they’d just executed a lovely flying lead change (when a horse switches canter leads in mid air, thus a “flying” change), while Stefan pointed them in the new direction.

The remarkable thing about this image is the backstory.

Dallard purchased Hershey, a half-Thoroughbred/half-Hanoverian gelding, in June 2005 for his wife, Karen, six months after her diagnosis of stage 4 lung cancer. She was not a smoker.

In his own words: “She competed him once at an RCRA (Royal Canadian Riding Academy) Ice Breaker to complete a bucket list item. She was absolutely thrilled. I was Hershey’s groom for those three and a half years and I fell in love with him.”

When Karen died on July 18, 2008, Dallard couldn’t bear to part with Hershey and so started to ride, even though he’d had no previous riding experience.

Dallard is 70 years young.

Hershey is an angel.

Thanks for visiting …

Dorothy 🙂

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Shout Outs

Wind Against Current

Travel Stained

snaphappi

Which Way Now 101

Hellisjones

 

A Walk on Mother’s Day

This Mother’s Day morning I was up early to take my beautiful dog, Abbey, for a walk.

The weather was perfect for a gentle amble around the neighbourhood and through the park. We stopped by the stream and sat on a rock as the water babbled and burbled by our feet, birds of variety singing their May song and the sun’s rays warming our backs.

When it was time to go home we walked back through the park. Two small dogs, both off leash, ran over to us and attacked my beautiful girl (who was leashed). Their delinquent owners couldn’t call them off and so came bounding over to retrieve them, which they did with some difficulty.

Bless her, Abbey did not react to these two canine hooligans, but simply stuck close while I did my best to fend them off.

When we were finally able to remove ourselves from the situation, I sat Abbey down and gave her a big hug.

Such a good girl.

At home she looked so beautiful lying by the front door I simply had to capture the moment.

Abbey

 If she could wish me a Happy Mother’s Day I know she would, as I wish a Happy Mother’s Day to women everywhere who find joy in their children.

Love my girlie.

Thanks for visiting …

Dorothy 🙂

©Dorothy Chiotti, Aimwell CreativeWorks 2014

 

 

My Four-Legged, Furry Family

Weekly Photo Challenge: Family

There are many kinds of family.

For this challenge I’m focusing on my furry, four-legged family.

I do not believe we can “own” animals. I believe that when an animal graces our lives with its presence it is a great blessing and we will be held accountable, at some point, for our stewardship over it.

My little furry family blesses my life in so many ways they cannot be numbered, and I care for them the very best I can in return.

Thank you for visiting …

Dorothy 🙂

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©Dorothy Chiotti, Aimwell CreativeWorks 2014 

Shout Outs

Travels and Trifles

Sunrise Adventures

NorthWest Frame of Mind

The Beauty of Loss

Daily Prompt: Unexpected/Loss

SIlver Lining

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We often think that to lose smoothing means the end. To me this is a limited view. The beauty of loss is that it also marks an incredible new beginning. Sometimes, when we are in the middle of the loss this is a difficult view. Nevertheless, it is true.

When my grandmother passed away some years ago I made the active choice, in the midst of my sorrow, not to wallow in feelings of loss. To me this was not productive. Of course I needed to mourn, but to take it beyond a healthy release of stress and emotion didn’t seem to me to be the best way to honour what she meant to me.

My grandmother was a go-getter. After leaving my grandfather following 27 years of emotional and psychological abuse, she somehow had the strength to make something of her life. The scars of her experience with him never left, but she made the most of her loss of faith in relationships and people and did what she needed to do to make her life her own again.

After she died I decided to honour her memory and strength of spirit by making the most of a sad situation. I wanted to turn my loss into an expression of new life, and I did this by honouring my need to heal.

Not that I thought of it in those terms at the time. I simply made up my mind that her death would not be in vain and that the best way to do that was to pick up the broken pieces of my life and start again.

In essence, granny’s death marked the birth of my long journey to self-awareness.

So, what did I do?

Well, we had a shared love of horses, so I knew she would have loved this. I quit corporate life to pursue a dream of working with these beautiful animals. I was in my early 30s at the time, unhappily married and barren. I was at a point in my life where I really needed to start making sense of things; needed to see a few of my dreams come true.

Working with horses (please see my Freshly Pressed post Confessions of a Coaching Intern: Finding Clarity with a Pitch Fork and a Song) put me through a refiner’s fire. I leaned on my promise of making good of my loss and honouring my grandmother to get me through some really tough moments. In the process, I began to explore my suppressed creativity, which eventually lead me to working with people who could help heal a lifetime of pain.

The loss of my lovely gran had paved the way for me to learn how to live authentically, and I have always believed in my heart that she would have been proud of my choice to do so. No matter how difficult our relationship had been, I knew she wanted me to be happy.

And now, when I look at my life and how much more grounded and happy it is; when I see how far I have come since that sad summer of 1994, there’s hardly a day that goes by when I don’t think of granny and the positive life-altering experience that came of my sad loss.

How we handle loss is, of course, a personal thing. I have chosen to adopt the attitude that every cloud has a silver lining. That to honour the person or anything else that is lost by honouring the life and blessings I still have is a greater tribute to what is gone than to sacrifice my happiness on the alter of bitterness and self-pity. Granny would not have wanted that for me. Up there in the heavens she has the pleasure of knowing that I have made good. It is also her blessing to observe how happy I am in my life now compared to the miserable woman I was at the time of her death.

The beauty of loss is that with every ending there is a new beginning. I believe those we have lost who truly loved us would want us to live our lives fully and joyfully.

It doesn’t mean the journey will be an easy one, but at least we’ll be heading in a positive direction.

To me, life is too short to look at it any other way.

Thanks for visiting …

Dorothy 🙂

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©Dorothy Chiotti, Aimwell CreativeWorks 2013

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Brothers

Daily Prompt: Close

Close

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Indiana and Jasper ~ as close as brothers can be.

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Thanks for visiting …

Dorothy 🙂

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©Dorothy Chiotti, Aimwell CreativeWorks 2013

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The Power of Love

Daily Prompt: Love

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Meet my teenage friend Danielle and her horse, Shadow.

Shadow is a roan three-year-old, maybe thoroughbred, (no one knows for sure yet) who was bound for the slaughterhouse earlier this year when Danielle’s employers at the time, owners of a local horse rescue, purchased him off the meat truck for a couple of hundred dollars.

He was given to Danielle and immediately a bond was formed.

The love of this young woman has saved this horse. And, as horses do, he’s rescuing her right back.

Now, that’s love.

Thanks for visiting.

Dorothy 🙂

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©Dorothy Chiotti, Aimwell CreativeWorks 2013

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A Few of My Favourite Things

A favourite flower

A favourite flower

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Daily Prompt: On the interview show Inside the Actors’ Studio, host James Lipton asks each of his guests the same ten questions. What are your responses?

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What is your favorite word? ~ Love ~ because it is the root of all peace

What is your least favorite word?~ Hate ~ because it is the opposite of love and leads to all war

What turns you on creatively, spiritually or emotionally? ~ truth

What turns you off? ~ lack of integrity, dishonesty

What is your favorite curse word? ~ I don’t curse enough to know

What sound or noise do you love? ~ silence punctuated by nature

What sound or noise do you hate? ~ disharmony

What profession other than your own would you like to attempt? ~ acting or jazz singing

What profession would you not like to do? ~ mathematician

If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates? ~ Welcome home, my child.

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Thanks for visiting …

Dorothy 🙂

©Dorothy Chiotti, Aimwell CreativeWorks 2013

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Inside the Insanity | Finale to an Entrance
10 Questions | A Sign Of Life
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